Dating death spouse
Both stated that widowers tried to remain "strong" when in public, crying infrequently in front of family members.Widowers seemed to think this would be helpful to their children.He put a big front for the family, for his parents and my mom's family. Widowers cried at funerals and when talking about their wives.As soon as the funeral was over, he was left alone. Children knew their fathers were crying in private, often at night, thinking no one would notice.Although I had some good male friends, I just didn't feel like I could go over and say, "Let's have a piece of cake and a good cry." It is hard to go to someone's house and say "I really need to talk about the death of my wife." You know, guys just don't do that.So, I ended up working out a lot of things on my own.The widower's grieving left him little energy to do this.
One moved in with children and became the care receiver. One widower traveled with his children at their invitation. One widower talked of the support he received from a long-time best friend.
Participants indicated that their faith had been strengthened throughout the coping period by the love they felt from family, friends, other church members, and a supreme being.